You have to lick it..
Ok friends, let's talk about oral sex. If you have been keeping up with the blog, then you know that I think oral sex is an integral part of sex and intimacy. What I have run into, frankly, is a bunch of men who don't know what the hell you're doing down there.
Pause: This post is just an expansion on another blog that I have read on the subject recently and things that I have learned from the Darling Dr. Nikki Ransom. If you haven't already, check out my home girl, Niqui's blog post http://dearniqui.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-three-c.html and subscribe to Nikki Ransom-Alfred's YouTube channel.
First let's start with the ladies--there are some things that you need to do to make it so that your partner wants to go down below. We need to have regular maintenance. I prefer to be bald down there, and the men that I date typically prefer for it to be bald as well. Not everyone is the same. I have heard some men say that they like a little hair down there--to each their own. Talk to your partner and ask what they prefer. If they want a landing strip or like it "I ain't got no worries" furry, it would be in your best interest to accommodate.
Pause: This goes for everyone! Don't make maintenance requests on the equipment and then not use it. If I say shave your balls so I can lick them, I should have my mouth all over your smooth ass sack. Don't request a well manicured vagina only to find another reason you don't want to be down there.
Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene ladies. I'm going to put my own story out there and risk embarrassment because I'm sure that there is someone making the same mistake that I was making. I kept getting recurring yeast infections and bacterial infections. Here's comes a small anatomy lesson (I'm feeling nursey today--yes I just made that word up).
Your body is full of bacteria, all if it isn't bad bacteria though. Your intestines, for example, contain bacteria that help breakdown food and prevent poisoning. Your vagina is the same way. Ladies, we have a tendency to "over-wash". I understand, trust me. We want to get in and out of every crease and fold. We want to smell good to encourage faces to be in our vaginas. Be careful, it's about the soap that you use.
I was using Dial. It's anti-bacterial, and it was washing away all the good bacteria that I needed. I had to change soaps--my doctor suggested Dove. Get the one with no fragrance for sensitive skin and use that to wash your vagina. If you still seem to be running into the same issue, go to the pharmacy and get a Probiotic. Antibiotics kill all the bacteria, probiotics promote the growth of the good bacteria. Boom! No more itchy vaj.
Gentlemen, learn how your woman likes it. The first time someone sucked on my clitoris (#7), I was pissed! Not every woman likes it to be smacked (#117), sucked, licked hard (#42), or whatever. Ask her how she likes it, or pay close attention to the response you get. Not every woman is going to talk shit in bed--listen to how she moans. Watch her physical reaction. Try different things until you find the right formula.
Maintenance is important for the gentlemen too. We don't want to be in the forest if we don't have to. I personally don't like a bald man down there (there's something so pedophile-ish about it), but I would like regular lawn trimming to keep it neat, and that includes the balls too. WASH UNDER YOUR BALLS MEN! All the way under them. No exceptions.
If you have never performed oral sex on anyone before, I would suggest you watch a tutorial. This is what pornos are for--ideas. Just remember what I said before, everyone isn't going to like what voluptuous Alice is going to like. Be mindful of the rough shit. Most women don't like their pussy abused, and most men cry if you play with the jewels too hard.
Want to do it! There is nothing worse than getting half-ass head. If you're going to go down there, go down with intention of sucking or licking until climax. Be convicted in what you're doing, and make every performance better than the last. If it's not your favorite thing to do, find a reason. I love giving head, but even more than that, I love to see my partner's reaction. The "Oh God" and "Oh shit" just make me want to do it more for more reaction. It's about pleasuring your partner.
Pause: Feedback is important. You have to make noise so that your partner knows that you're doing a good job. Silence is deadly in the bedroom.
We all have off days. If it's one of those days where your performance would be sub-par, then skip it. Don't do it just to satiate me, do it because you get a thrill out of doing it. Bad head will make me lose interest in sex completely. Don't find an excuse--just keep it real.
My home girl said crave it, care for it, and conquer it. I think these are good words to live by.
Happy sucking and licking my friends.
Pause: This post is just an expansion on another blog that I have read on the subject recently and things that I have learned from the Darling Dr. Nikki Ransom. If you haven't already, check out my home girl, Niqui's blog post http://dearniqui.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-three-c.html and subscribe to Nikki Ransom-Alfred's YouTube channel.
First let's start with the ladies--there are some things that you need to do to make it so that your partner wants to go down below. We need to have regular maintenance. I prefer to be bald down there, and the men that I date typically prefer for it to be bald as well. Not everyone is the same. I have heard some men say that they like a little hair down there--to each their own. Talk to your partner and ask what they prefer. If they want a landing strip or like it "I ain't got no worries" furry, it would be in your best interest to accommodate.
Pause: This goes for everyone! Don't make maintenance requests on the equipment and then not use it. If I say shave your balls so I can lick them, I should have my mouth all over your smooth ass sack. Don't request a well manicured vagina only to find another reason you don't want to be down there.
Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene ladies. I'm going to put my own story out there and risk embarrassment because I'm sure that there is someone making the same mistake that I was making. I kept getting recurring yeast infections and bacterial infections. Here's comes a small anatomy lesson (I'm feeling nursey today--yes I just made that word up).
Your body is full of bacteria, all if it isn't bad bacteria though. Your intestines, for example, contain bacteria that help breakdown food and prevent poisoning. Your vagina is the same way. Ladies, we have a tendency to "over-wash". I understand, trust me. We want to get in and out of every crease and fold. We want to smell good to encourage faces to be in our vaginas. Be careful, it's about the soap that you use.
I was using Dial. It's anti-bacterial, and it was washing away all the good bacteria that I needed. I had to change soaps--my doctor suggested Dove. Get the one with no fragrance for sensitive skin and use that to wash your vagina. If you still seem to be running into the same issue, go to the pharmacy and get a Probiotic. Antibiotics kill all the bacteria, probiotics promote the growth of the good bacteria. Boom! No more itchy vaj.
Gentlemen, learn how your woman likes it. The first time someone sucked on my clitoris (#7), I was pissed! Not every woman likes it to be smacked (#117), sucked, licked hard (#42), or whatever. Ask her how she likes it, or pay close attention to the response you get. Not every woman is going to talk shit in bed--listen to how she moans. Watch her physical reaction. Try different things until you find the right formula.
Maintenance is important for the gentlemen too. We don't want to be in the forest if we don't have to. I personally don't like a bald man down there (there's something so pedophile-ish about it), but I would like regular lawn trimming to keep it neat, and that includes the balls too. WASH UNDER YOUR BALLS MEN! All the way under them. No exceptions.
If you have never performed oral sex on anyone before, I would suggest you watch a tutorial. This is what pornos are for--ideas. Just remember what I said before, everyone isn't going to like what voluptuous Alice is going to like. Be mindful of the rough shit. Most women don't like their pussy abused, and most men cry if you play with the jewels too hard.
Want to do it! There is nothing worse than getting half-ass head. If you're going to go down there, go down with intention of sucking or licking until climax. Be convicted in what you're doing, and make every performance better than the last. If it's not your favorite thing to do, find a reason. I love giving head, but even more than that, I love to see my partner's reaction. The "Oh God" and "Oh shit" just make me want to do it more for more reaction. It's about pleasuring your partner.
Pause: Feedback is important. You have to make noise so that your partner knows that you're doing a good job. Silence is deadly in the bedroom.
We all have off days. If it's one of those days where your performance would be sub-par, then skip it. Don't do it just to satiate me, do it because you get a thrill out of doing it. Bad head will make me lose interest in sex completely. Don't find an excuse--just keep it real.
My home girl said crave it, care for it, and conquer it. I think these are good words to live by.
Happy sucking and licking my friends.
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